TANGO SOCIETY OF MINNESOTA GUIDE TO SUCCESSFUL DANCING
Inclusion at Tango Society of Minnesota (TSoM) means we are striving to make all people feel valued and respected. TSoM dancers may choose to lead or follow, and TSoM embraces each dancer’s choice to lead or follow.
TSoM seeks to create events that are safe, welcoming, and inclusive for everyone, regardless of age, race, gender, sexuality, ability, experience, or background. Sexual harassment will not be tolerated by the Tango Society of Minnesota. Discrimination on the basis of race, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, national origin or religion is similarly prohibited.
To ensure our commitment to honor this statement, we ask all members and attendees at TSoM events to respect your partner, your partner’s level of dancing, your partner’s body space comfort level, the people around you, the music and band, and the culture and heritage of tango. Respect includes consent, which means ensuring you have received consent to dance.
Health, Hygiene, and Attire
For a positive joyful experience for all TSoM event participants, please consider the following:
- Follow public health guidelines and if you feel unwell or exhibit symptoms, please stay home.
- Practice good hygiene including showering before a dance, using deodorant, monitoring body odor, bringing a sweat towel if appropriate, brushing teeth, using mints or chewing gum as needed, and no or very minimal body sprays or perfumes.
- Thoughtfully select clothing for personal comfort and safety as well as that of others. Wear dance appropriate shoes preferably with soft, non-marking soles.
For a deep dive on this topic, check out Yelizaveta’s Tango Banter Podcast:
Top 10 Complaints Followers have about Leaders and
Top 10 Complaints Leaders have about Followers
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL THE CODE OF BEHAVIOR HAS BEEN VIOLATED
Self-advocacy is a powerful tool, and here are some simple tips and examples to aid in providing kind feedback regarding tango safety and boundaries.
- Make observations rather than judgements such as: “I noticed, I felt, I saw.”
- Express feelings such as: “I felt off balance in the back ocho, can we do it again and look at our embrace?” (but remember not to give feedback at a milonga-only at classes and practicas).
- Identify needs, rather than strategies to immediately solve the problem in order to allow your tango partner to participate in the solution(s).
- Make requests, rather than demands or directives.
Example:
“I’m noticing your hand has been grazing below my waist, and that feels uncomfortable. To be relaxed in the embrace, I need my partners’ hands to remain above my waist. Is that possible for you to do?” Hopefully, they agree, you can thank your partner respectfully, and tango on without hurt feelings or resentments. It’s then up to them to figure out HOW to continue the dance, within those boundaries you have kindly shared.
HOW TO GET HELP
If you encounter inappropriate behavior and cannot resolve it on your own at an event/milonga/practica, etc. you can always alert the host of the event. If that is not a viable solution, we are here to help. You can let us know you are experiencing a problem by
FILLING OUT THIS FORM. Your information will go to a small group of board members who will hold it confidential. Please consider including your name and contact information so the Code of Behavior Incident Team can follow up with you. You may choose to submit this form anonymously, but that choice will limit the team’s ability to follow up and take action on the information you provide.